tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32404305.post3568866837140092633..comments2023-08-24T04:52:22.701-04:00Comments on Yarnal Knowledge: Olympics and TrialsKristinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07933242134808562530noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32404305.post-48742903482695437242008-07-31T11:20:00.000-04:002008-07-31T11:20:00.000-04:00The first thing to do is to look back on your life...The first thing to do is to look back on your life, how you've lived it and why you've made the decisions you've made. I'm pretty sure that you'll see that you have a lifetime of making the best decisions possible with the information available. You are the type of person who considers other peoples feelings to a fault (probably often OVER your own feelings). <BR/><BR/>Based on that, you can be sure that you're using the same, CORRECT, process in making all your wedding decisions. Sure, any and every decision is going to make someone feel left out or slighted -- but remember, because you are at the center of the decision, YOU are the one who has ALL the facts and information. YOU are the one procession that and considering EVERYONE. The person who feels slighted is most likely only considering him or her self (not in a selfish way necessarily, just in a "I don't know what every other person has said on this subject" kind of way).<BR/><BR/>Second, and more importantly, your wedding has to make exactly TWO people happy. You and C. It is honestly one of the few times in life when you are allowed (nay, expected) to be at least a little bit selfish.<BR/><BR/>If you let the opinions, feelings and meddling of other people ruin your happiness on one of the days that should be among the top five happiest days of your life (unless you have more than 4 kids - then it'll get bumped into the top ten... somewhere in the top 20 for Michelle Duggar... or perhaps now she considers her wedding day one of the worst days of her life based on the path its led her down!)... then you will have failed at wedding.<BR/><BR/>I know you. Without even knowing any specific details of where your stress is coming from, I can tell you with absolute certainty that you are making the RIGHT choices. You ARE considering all the appropriate people and their feelings. You are making WISE and LOVING decisions whether they see it now or not.<BR/><BR/>Third, and finally, regardless of how they feel now, everyone will have a good time at your wedding. All of the pre-wedding crap will disappear and everyone will have a fabulous time watching you enjoy your big day and begin a blissful new life as a married girl. <BR/><BR/>Anyone who appears to not be enjoying him or herself or seems to still be stewing about perceived slights is off the Christmas card list. <BR/><BR/>Period.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02223847951343673349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32404305.post-19022688899316409962008-07-30T22:33:00.000-04:002008-07-30T22:33:00.000-04:00My Goodness...Kris, if only you could love yoursel...My Goodness...Kris, if only you could love yourself as much as I do...you'd have no problems. You are just a loving gal with a big heart...and sometimes that leaves you wide open for a lot of upset. Hang in there..email me soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com